Image: Otter. A lost word.
This is a photograph of a page in the spectacular book the lost words by Robert MacFarlane (author) and Jackie Morris (illustrator).
I learned an important lesson about what to do with anger from Zen Master, poet and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh (Thay) while on retreat at
Magnolia Monastery in 2013. It happened during a question and
answer session.
This is my perspective about
what I saw and heard.
Several questions were asked
and answered. Then a person stood up and made an extended comment on some of
the products used by the monastics to make our meals, and the companies they
were from. The person then posed the question:
“So my question is about
products. [Several sentences are spoken in an incredulous manner about why this place was buying products like lettuce, apples, and oats from horrible this and
that terrible company because they are cheaper?] Is the lack of money enough of a reason to purchase these unethical products?”
(As I listened to the
question, I heard concern mixed with a hefty dose of criticism and blame.
Though I am also thoughtful about the what and the where of
my purchases, I recalled peeking into the kitchen window at 4:00 AM that
morning on my way to get a cup of tea before our 5:00 AM meditation and noticing breakfast prep and cooking. In one area of the kitchen, one monastic was
transforming chickpeas into hummus using an immersion blender.
Little by little there would be a spoonful for every one of the 900
meditators.)
I turned my gaze from the
questioner to Thay who paused a little longer than he had before answering
other questions.
I was sitting nearby, close
enough to notice Thay’s breath get heavy and a slight movement in his chest as he breathed in and out. I counted 8 breaths. Then he spoke. I wrote the
words he said in my journal. Speaking slowly, his tone was soft, his delivery
clear and direct. He looked at the questioner and sometimes at us in the audience as
he said:
“It’s not money, it’s the
lack of understanding of love. Rather than demand and criticize and protest, we
look at what we are doing that is positive. The biggest difficulty is to live
happily as a society. Give your time and energy to build a happy community.”
That’s it.
So, yeah, I could have asked
that question about products with maybe even more messiness. I recall times
when I was mad or discouraged and used my energy to criticize and blame
someone, something (money), or some situation. Thay didn’t defend, explain, or
justify the monastery's use of “unethical products.” He didn’t use the question to talk about the
organic gardens at Magnolia and other monasteries. He didn’t talk about their
community’s “happy farms and farmers fostering sustainability”
programs. Instead, he suggested that we look at what positive things are
happening and to let that inspire us to build happy [lives, families, and]
communities.
This is what I think Thay is
saying.
When he says, “it’s not
money,” in this sentence it means the problem. The problem is not
money. For me, Thay wants us to look at the cause of money problems.
I think he is bringing forward other questions like, “How can we be here for
each other?” “How can I enjoy happiness and ease and freedoms when others
aren’t?” “What is humankind’s highest aspiration?” “How am I contributing to
this aspiration of a happy community and society?”
When Thay says that the
problem is “the lack of understanding of love,” I think of his book
titled True Love. In it, he says “love is being here for another.”
Another means all life including our planet. If we do not understand what love
is, we are not able to be here for others with kindness and joy.
